Illustrative applications
How the distinction can guide practice.
These constructed examples illustrate the model. They are not case-study findings, diagnostic indicators or guaranteed interventions.
Coaching · Approval and choice“I cannot say no.”
Current construction: Refusing a request is experienced as necessarily losing the relationship.
Possible stretch: Explore whether declining one request and rejecting the person must mean the same thing. Work with a specific situation and rehearse language the client can genuinely use.
Support and timing: Attend to actual relational consequences and dependence. An abstract invitation to abandon the need for approval may exceed what is usable.
Teaching · From answer to assumption“There must be one right answer.”
Current construction: Learning is organised around reproducing the expected response.
Possible stretch: Compare two defensible answers and identify the assumption that makes each plausible, using familiar subject matter.
Support and timing: Provide concrete examples and time to examine them. Requiring an immediate theory of knowledge may be too distant; simply rewarding the expected answer may leave the frame untouched.
Leadership · Disagreement and authority“They are undermining me.”
Current construction: Disagreement is interpreted as a threat to legitimate authority.
Possible stretch: Separate the content of a challenge from the meaning assigned to it. Explore whether the disagreement could supply information relevant to the leader’s intention.
Support and timing: Work with a recent encounter or pause where feasible. The organisation’s incentives and consequences may constrain which alternatives can actually be enacted.
Policing, prisons and other institutional contexts
The same inquiry can inform supervised learning about how roles, responsibility and encounters are constructed. Institutional power and constrained choice must remain explicit. Compliance is not evidence of development, and a developmental interpretation does not replace professional duties or practical support.